Quiz: Healthy Boundaries

By Kristen Sohlman, HBA, MACP (Candidate), RP

Give yourself one point for each statement that applies to you.

1. You can say yes or no, and accept without hurt feelings when others say yes or no.
2. You respect yourself and have a good sense of identity.
3. You expect reciprocity in your relationships with others.
4. You share responsibility and power.
5. You understand when a problem is yours versus when it belongs to someone else.
6. You share personal information gradually in a mutual sharing and trusting relationship.
7. You do not tolerate abuse or disrespect.
8. You know your wants, needs, and feelings, and communicate them clearly within your relationships.
9. You are committed to and responsible for exploring and nurturing your full potential.  
10. You are responsible for your own happiness.
11. You value your opinions and feelings as much as others.
12. You know your limits and do not let others define your limits.
13. You can ask for help when you need it.
14. You do not compromise your values or integrity to avoid rejection.

10-14

Great work! You have a healthy knowledge of boundaries. Keep it up and share your wisdom with others.

6-9 

Almost there! You have a working knowledge of healthy boundaries, but may benefit from learning more.

1-5
​We all have to start somewhere. You're aware that your boundaries need some more attention. It can only get better from here.